grandkids

April 9, 2017

SHARING YOUR WISDOM

  Having survived all these years gives us license to share what we have learned. I find that all I have to do is apply the Dale Carnegie principle of speaking in terms of other peoples interest and they will eat it up. I had just such an occurrence this morning. Each week when I speak to the grandkids I ask what fun stuff they are doing in school. My 11 year old bonus granddaughter went on a school field […]
March 21, 2017

TIMES THEY ARE A CHANGIN’ AND PRETTY FAST!

Even the rate of change is changing. I am almost finished reading “Thanks for being late” by Thomas Friedman. He wrote “The world is flat” back in 2005. It spoke to the world becoming one market, etc. He was spot on. In this new book he takes on the rate of change with technology today. As much as I dislike it, the future is NOW. It would be fair for you to ask what this has to do with Grandparents, […]
March 20, 2017

WE CAN’T GIVE UP ON GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS

I stay inspired to write on the subject of Grandparents Rights every time I look at my Grandangel’s picture. If you are suffering alienation from your grandkids my heart goes out to you. You all know by now that I advocate doing all you can before you choose the legal avenue. If legal action is the only way then you can arm yourself with several things that are helpful in court. In all I read about Grandparents Visitation rights cases […]
March 17, 2017

IT BREAKS MY HEART THAT WE EVEN NEED GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS

I get how complicated life can be. The fact that Grandparents rights even need to exist is troublesome. As I get older I have a better vantage point to see both sides of things. I admit to being Pollyannic but that doesn’t change the reality of what is going on in family life today. I recognize that there are bad actors on both sides of family dysfunction. One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from writing in this space […]
March 8, 2017

CAN YOU GET YOUR NOSE UNDER THE TENT?

THE WAY IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE   Being estranged from a Grandchild is an arrow to the heart. We will do anything to re-establish that connection. From the extreme of legally asserting our Grandparents Rights if possible, to, let’s face it, BEGGING. No matter where you are on this continuum it is important that you retreat to your Caring Grandparent place and make a strategic plan before you do anything. Without such a plan we are often tempted to […]
March 5, 2017

TIPS ON COMMUNICATING WITH GRANDCHILDREN

  When we have the ear of our grandchildren we should have considered how to best communicate with them. This is one area where intention is not enough. The greatest thing humans have to offer another person is our time and attention. This is especially true of these little humans we call grandkids. It will serve us well to consider several things first. Age Appropriateness; Many things I have read divide the ages as follows; 0-5 years, 5-10 years, 11-17 […]
March 1, 2017

THE POWER WE WEILD AS GRANDPARENTS

The Loving support for a child is magnified when it comes from Grandma and/or Grandpa. Most kids can count on their parents loving them and lots of them know their Grandparents love them as well. The magic is when they are made to feel special by your showing up at things like plays and sporting events. We all crave love and approval and in the case of our grandkids they are like a vacuum cleaner when it comes to taking […]
February 24, 2017

WHY THE QUEST FOR GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS IS SO HARD.

Whenever I am called on to explain why Grandparents Rights is such a tough subject I find myself deflecting  the question. The answer(s) are many and very complicated. A lot of why it is hard is that we all start too late. Most Grandparents wait til there is family unit stability trouble on the horizon to start worrying about the potential that they may not see as much of their grands as they wish. In some cases it is whether […]
February 21, 2017

CONNECTING WITH GRANDCHILDREN

It is easy to forget the rules of good human relations when we are talking to our Grandkids. One of the tenants of my Dale Carnegie training is that we should speak in terms of the others interests. This is especially true when it comes to our beloved grands. We tend to miss the part about them growing up. As you know it doesn’t serve us well to talk to an eight year old boy the same way we might […]