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March 5, 2017

TIPS ON COMMUNICATING WITH GRANDCHILDREN

  When we have the ear of our grandchildren we should have considered how to best communicate with them. This is one area where intention is not enough. The greatest thing humans have to offer another person is our time and attention. This is especially true of these little humans we call grandkids. It will serve us well to consider several things first. Age Appropriateness; Many things I have read divide the ages as follows; 0-5 years, 5-10 years, 11-17 […]
March 1, 2017

THE POWER WE WEILD AS GRANDPARENTS

The Loving support for a child is magnified when it comes from Grandma and/or Grandpa. Most kids can count on their parents loving them and lots of them know their Grandparents love them as well. The magic is when they are made to feel special by your showing up at things like plays and sporting events. We all crave love and approval and in the case of our grandkids they are like a vacuum cleaner when it comes to taking […]
February 24, 2017

WHY THE QUEST FOR GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS IS SO HARD.

Whenever I am called on to explain why Grandparents Rights is such a tough subject I find myself deflecting  the question. The answer(s) are many and very complicated. A lot of why it is hard is that we all start too late. Most Grandparents wait til there is family unit stability trouble on the horizon to start worrying about the potential that they may not see as much of their grands as they wish. In some cases it is whether […]
February 21, 2017

CONNECTING WITH GRANDCHILDREN

It is easy to forget the rules of good human relations when we are talking to our Grandkids. One of the tenants of my Dale Carnegie training is that we should speak in terms of the others interests. This is especially true when it comes to our beloved grands. We tend to miss the part about them growing up. As you know it doesn’t serve us well to talk to an eight year old boy the same way we might […]
February 20, 2017

The need for Grandparents Rights is directly related to your place in the family structure.

BLISS   If you are the Paternal Grandparents of a family that is experiencing difficulties you are much more vulnerable to troubled waters when it comes to spending time with your Grandkids. The reasons for this are many and very complicated but the facts still remain the same. Let’s first consider that the courts, whenever possible, will honor the wishes of the parents. The greatest weight of this is given to the mother unless circumstances dictate differently. The adage about […]
February 15, 2017

OUR FOUNDING FATHERS AND GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS

Back in the early 1770s, when Thomas Jefferson sat down to write some thoughts of this new experiment in governance it was an exceedingly heady, dangerous and stressful time. I am afraid that Grandparents rights were not front and center in his mind. As a matter of fact neither were parents rights, they were interjected later as an amendment. Not only that but Parents rights were and are written into the constitution as subject to the judgement of the state. […]
February 12, 2017

MEET PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE

One sure fire way to make sure your Grandparents Rights stay in tact is to meet the family of your Grandchildren right were they are. I realize that sounds like a blinding glimpse of the obvious but it is an oft overlooked area of human relationships. I learned this in, of all places, a management communication seminar years ago. The situation was;  you need to grab a moment of one of your coworkers time for a quick question. It would […]
February 11, 2017

ADDING VALUE TO OUR GRANDCHILDREN

As complicated as the Grandparents Rights issue can be most of us still have the ability to add tremendous value to those deserved precious minds of our grands. If you are reading this post on this site you are a Caring Grandparent and that qualifies you as a certified positive influence on the lives of your grandchild. All of us look for affirmation of our place in society. Young people are often defined by knowing they matter to more than […]
February 10, 2017

GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS ARE DIFFERENT EVEN IN THE SAME FAMILY

If you have more than one child with children of there own you are probably struck by how different the Grandparenting experience is from one extended family to the others. No matter what your relationship is with your own children you have now added a spouse to each of your own kids. That spouse brings a totally different set of life and familial experiences to your family. When Grandkids are added to the mix ……….You can see where this gets […]