I am a firm believer in the goodness of folks, especially Grandparents, given the right information. I am not naive enough to think that there are no bad actors, but my interaction with thousands of grandparents has informed me that it is mostly misperceptions and lack of knowledge that cause complications in extended families.
Now, we are faced with how to be in this new world. I don’t know about you, but I ask my grandkids for lots of help with my iPhone. I find ways to communicate with them that they prefer because I plan to do all in my power to stay in their lives as much as I can.
Raising grandkids truly takes a team effort, and one of the unexpected rewards is the opportunity to learn something new along the way. It doesn’t take much to move from just talking with them to contributing to their enthusiasm about a subject.
We all crave love and approval and in the case of our grandkids they are like a vacuum cleaner when it comes to taking it in. We have the power to not only help them to feel they matter, we can easily make them feel special.
I will say, though, that it is always helpful to appreciate what will come of your struggle if you persevere. Keeping you eye on the prize is the very fuel necessary to achieve anything meaningful.
One of the tenets of my Dale Carnegie training is that we should speak in terms of others’ interests. This is especially true when it comes to our beloved grands.